Finding your core values, if money was no object


  1. Frame {find calm}
  2. Create {define}
  3. Refine {group}
  4. Prioritize {scrutinize}
  5. Live with them {act on them}

What is a core value? Why do they even matter? Isn’t that “fluffy” consultant speak?!

Living with a guiding set of values that help manage your interactions and dealings is essential to growth. {truism}.

Your relationships are clearer, and you are happier when you are living by a definition that YOU created. {truism #2)

Finding your TRUE CORE VALUES is hard. {FACT}

Let’s address that,

By Wikipedia’s definition; Core values {are}, the first value category of the value system.

Dig a little deeper and you get into the heart of the matter, your “value system”!? {yikes}

How do you define your value system?

Surprisingly, most people will claim to have a value system, but struggle to define it to themselves and, thus, to others {me}.

I suffered from this for too long and needed to find a way to both keep my CORE VALUES front of mind and able to adapt with my growing experiences. After some study and work with STAGEN, I adapted a 5 step process.

Start here;

BEFORE YOU START – Create a {realistic} timeline that works for you, I do this exercise once a year. I started by doing it quarterly.

Step 1) Frame: Get yourself in the right frame of mind, sip on some whiskey, listen to classical music, smoke a cigar {or all 3}.


It is so important to consider this question first;

What do I desire?

{Write down the first 5 desires that pop up, put them aside}

Step 2) Creation: Ask yourself this one question;

What is important to me?

Write everything down, I mean everything (look for 7-15 items at least).

Step 3) Refinement: Now group the values phrases together into logical and meaningful groupings {that share the same essence}. Group your values into 5-7 main corps categories or “themes.”

Step 4) Prioritize: Now, prioritize those core values themes in order of emphasis (based on how much attention you want to put toward these values in your life).

Now comes the hard part.

Step 5) Live with them {act on them}: The old adage is true “Actions speak louder than words”.

Putting a set of CORE VALUES to practice takes resolve;

  • it means questioning your operations,
  • hiring ONLY employees who “buy in” to them,
  • sacrificing friendships for them,
  • a lot of W.A.F {work after failure}
  • fielding critique every step of the way,
  • holding yourself accountable {when nobody is watching}
  • and fighting for what is important to you.

Core Values are not meant to be the POPULAR Choice {necessarily}, they are designed to help you cut that BS and get to the HEART of what makes you proud.

Have a look at mine.

{to be continued} Next, I will look to take those DESIRES you wrote down and test them with your NEW CORE VALUES.


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